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Are you wanting to have a better human experience?

You're arrived on the right page - I help you learn to lead yourself for a better human experience

Coaching is a very personal, albeit incredibly powerful, journey.  It's an investment in YOU.  It takes time, money and effort.  That you've come this far needs to be acknowledged - whether you hang in this site or connect somewhere else - I congratulate you for valuing your life enough to make this investment, to make your life the one you never want to trade.  

No one is immune to the rough stuff, to difficulties and hardship.  Everyone is perfectly 'imperfect'.  And we all want the same things in life - to be loved, to have a sense of belonging, purpose, safety, connection... 

I help you transform from stressed, disconnected, even numb, to calm, deliberate and empowered through mindfully led and evocative coaching. My coaching is evocative because it expands your mind to gain awareness on how you are perceiving and therefore experiencing your reality – that’s illuminating  the perceptions, feelings and values that sit lurking under the surface of your behaviours and choices. 

We assist you build clarity as you unravel the mystery of yourself.  That awareness gives you control and the ability to have choice and make change.

Because as the saying goes - pain is inevitable, suffering is a choice.  And that's why I coach.  To help you help yourself with your choices, so you become the YOU you'd like to be!

Let's be honest, does any of this sound familiar?

Are you Hitting Snooze, dragging yourself out of bed, dreading the day, lacking enthusiasm because you can't bear to hear all your staff's issues (you have enough of your own, right!)?

Are you spending time in The Depths of Despair – as you realised time is passing you by and you’re not living the life, or being the person, you wanted to be?

Have you become a Perfecting People Pleaser? Marching to the beat of others' expectations in your ear and becoming more and more resentful...?

Are you filling that Big Pot Hole In Your Life with unhealthy habits and behaviours. Retail therapy? A regular extra bottle of wine? Unhealthy eating habits?

Are you the Worst Version of You inside your most important relationships - snappy at your dog, yelling at the kids, snippy at work. Then beating yourself up for it? 

Do you carry a Sense of Imposter Syndrome - "I've got this great job but I have no idea what I'm doing, they'll find me out soon enough"!?

Have you had that Regrettable Moment – you’ve overreacted, apologised profusely, hoping you’ll keep your job, your marriage, or a place at the Christmas table?

Are you convinced there's got to be Something Larger And More Lasting to be working on, but you just can’t pinpoint what that something is?

That's ok, you're not alone and I can help

When ‘life happens’ we can resort to retail therapy, giving up, or a 10am martini. But shoving it down, sideways or to someone else doesn’t help!

Any of these scenarios means you're being robbed of joy, connection, your dreams, that the extraordinary life you deserve is instead rather average and ho-hum. And you're damaging your relationships, productivity, creativity, and health on a daily basis.

Please don't be alarmed, you're not alone. Take heart - life like this can be transformed. And this is why I do what I do.  

If you're wanting to start a new chapter (volume?) of your life, or wanting to partner with someone as you navigate your work, relationships and curve balls ... I can support you. 

I help you learn how to check yourself before you wreck yourself!

No BS and no One Size Fits All.

Just IMAGINE if.... your life looked and felt like THIS:

... the life you'd like to have and the person you'd like to be!!??

What might be possible if you're able to ...

  • Do meaningful work, connected with Your Purpose
  • Look after your health & relationships AND your deadlines at work
  • Solve problems and make decisions with confidence 
  • Enjoy higher performance and productivity, more engagement at work  
  • Have reduced stress, anxiety and conflict 
  • String two sensible words together at the end of the day
  • Be calm, resourceful and focussed when the sh*t hits the fan and you’re facing (more) complexity and adversity 
  • Be less reactive, less conflict when dealing with challenging people.
  • Have a more positive, balanced perspective and outlook.
  • Let go of the past – even forgive those who've let you down
  • Know what really matters to you – and ditching what doesn’t
  • Have a deeper understanding of your values & beliefs – and acting in alignment with them
  • Know and leverage your strengths (instead of focusing on your weaknesses!)

STEPS to Setting Yourself Up for Coaching

Step #1 - Work Out If Coaching Can Help YOU

Step #2 - Learn What Coaching is Really

Step #3 - Decide If I'm the Right Coach for You

Step #4 - Pick up the Phone or Email

Step #5 - Decide on the Coaching Programme

Step #1 - When Is Coaching Going to Help You?

Here's a fun fact - nearly 50% of our day) we're operating in default autopilot mode.  Which is a great thing on one hand - because while we're busy sorting kids, logistics, report deadlines and a social life, we've also got 600 trillion cells doing exactly what they should be, when they should be.  We're incredible, all of us.

But then there's the unhelpful default mode - habits, patterns, beliefs and thoughts that fly under the radar, until, well, we wake up and just know it's time for some clarity and reorganising and unleashing.  Time for some deliberate thinking.  You know you have to make something shift because there's more to your life than 'this'. You deserve more than this. And you know that the cost to your happiness and health  of doing nothing will be catastrophic.

THAT is when coaching is going to help you!

Want to get more specific? If any of these feelings resonate for you, coaching can help!

BURN OUT?

  • accepting your state of chronic stress and overwhelm as normal?
  • having no time or energy for what really matters?
  • can't get out of bed in the morning?
  • being taken advantage of at work or home?
  • exhausting yourself giving the impression of being perfect?
  • overwhelmed with dread about taking the next step?
  • being unable to cope when the going gets tough?

SAD FOR 'NO REASON"?

  • simply that: feeling sad and lost, and you can't put your finger on why?
  • feeling lonely and no one understand you?
  • everything should be 'fine' but it just isn't!

FEELING LIKE YOUR MIND IS GOING NUTS?

There are a bunch of 'cognitive distortions' that we all default to in varying degrees.  Our brain is wired for survival not for happiness, and cognitive distortions are trying to protect us -

they’re fast tracked coping mechanisms which are really sensitive to threat.

Using cognitive based therapy (CBT) coaching can help you if you find yourself:
  • defaulting to 'all or nothing' thinking
  • magnetising the negative, discounting the positive
  • catastrophising the worst case scenario
  • taking everything personally
  • getting upset that others don't do what you think they should
  • jumping to conclusions about the future - a but like fortune telling :)
  • mind reading - making assumptions about what someone thinks about you
  • constantly blaming others or 'needing' to be right all the time
  • overgeneralising

By learning to correctly identify this kind of “stinkin’ thinkin’,” we can then answer the negative thinking back, and refute it. By refuting the negative thinking over and over again, it will slowly diminish overtime and be automatically replaced by more rational, balanced thinking. That's what coaching and CBT do.

RECENT LIFE CHANGING EVENT?

  • kids recently left home?
  • lost a job?
  • been made redundant?
  • closed a business?
  • ended a relationship or recently divorced?
  • moved towns?
  • recently lost a loved one?
  • recovering from a major health scare?
  • returning to work after a long absence?
  • been or being bullied at work?
  • trying to deal with impact of COVID on your life?
  • reaching a milestone birthday and you've discovered an appetite for something new?

PARENTING STRUGGLES?

  • honestly where do you start?
  • kids are angry and raging?
  • kids are anxious and withdrawn, no self confidence?
  • kids won't talk to you, spend their days locked up in their room?
  • you worry constantly about their future?
  • worrying about whether you've done enough to set them off in the world?
  • worrying about whether they're able to make good decisions?
  • scared about what they're really doing when not at home?
  • not liking the version of you that your kids get to see?
  • lost the plot with rules, boundaries and punishments?

SOMETHING HAS TO CHANGE!!???

  • quite simply life was supposed to be better than this!
  • something has to change and not sure where to start?
  • feeling like you have no control over your life?
  • at a crossroads in your career?

LANGUISHING?

  • feeling comfortably or uncomfortably numb about life?
  • in a treadmill - work home work, nothing to look forward to?
  • feeling a sense of dread about the future - is this as good as it gets?
  • knowing there was supposed to be more to life than this?
  • feeling time is passing you by?
  • scared to rock the boat and make a change, but knowing you have to?
  • living the lives others expect you to have, rather than the one you want?
  • feeling disheartened, downtrodden and disappointed at not having the life you thought you'd have?

LOST DIRECTION AND SENSE OF PURPOSE?

  • don't even know WHAT you want to do?
  • realising the self help books have become more 'shelf help' than 'self help'?
  • living the lives others expect you to have, rather than the one you want?
  • getting in your own way of progress - new year resolutions, yeah nah?
  • unhappy in your job, but else can you do?
  • feeling disheartened, downtrodden and disappointed for never getting 'it' started?
  • maybe you're alone for first time and haven't had to come up with 'your own' direction before?
  • at a crossroads in your career?

WANT TO AVOID MEDICATION?

  • been advised that 'unless you do something' you'll end up on medication?

PANIC ATTACKS AND/OR ANXIETY?

  • having panic attacks?
  • feeling paralysed with fear about what future holds?
  • losing sleep due to worrying?
  • afraid to try anything new for fear of failure?
  • accepting your state of anxiety as normal. 
  • being unable to cope when the going gets tough?
  • unable to regulate your emotions, your emotional brain is on steriods?

CAN'T FOCUS OR PAY ATTENTION?

  • unable to get things done, with monkey mind in full swing?
  • can't turn your thoughts off?
  • feeling disheartened, downtrodden and disappointed for never getting 'it' started?
  • struggling to pay attention to people talking to you?
  • can't decide what to be working on?
  • constantly missing out on promotion?

DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO NEXT TO HELP YOURSELF?

  • realising the self help books have become more 'shelf help' than 'self help'?
  • feeling as if you're throwing down the drain with online training?
  • getting in your own way of progress - new year resolutions, yeah nah?
  • feeling disheartened, downtrodden and disappointed for never getting 'it' started.
  • your mind full of thoughts and you can't unscramble them?
  • unsure what even matters to you any more?

STRESSED AND OVERWHELMED?

  • realising the self help books have become more 'shelf help' than 'self help'?
  • getting too much advice from well meaning others and it's adding to the stress?
  • accepting your state of chronic stress as normal?
  • needing someone to listen and help without judgement?
  • monkey mind in overdrive, can't see the wood for the trees!?
  • exhausting yourself giving the impression of being perfect?
  • treating yourself unkindly?
  • being unable to cope when the going gets tough?
  • worrying about your mental health (and its damaging your mental health!)?
  • desperately trying to keep it all together, to be 'in control'?

PEOPLE PLEASING EXHAUSTION?

  • living the lives others expect you to have, rather than the one you want. 
  • feeling resentment toward those you love and work for?
  • exhausting yourself giving the impression of being perfect?
  • trying to keep the peace?
  • feeling responsible for the happiness of others?
  • feeling disheartened and disappointed about who you are being?
  • lost sight of who you really are - you've become a human pretzel trying to 'fit in' with everyone?
  • yet, while you're frantically being everything to everyone, you're treating yourself unkindly?

WORK LIFE BALANCE TOTALLY OUT OF WHACK?

  • giving 'your all' to work with little time left for other areas of life?
  • relationships suffering as a result of time you spend at work?
  • no time for exercise and self care?
  • not getting enough sleep?
  • someone's given you an ultimatum - "do something or else..."?
  • never seeing your kids, missing out on them growing up?
  • unable to get off the treadmill?
  • fantasising about 'running away' (don't laugh, I've done it!!)

     

If any of the above is familiar...

...breathe, and be kind to yourself.  You're not alone.  

Plus, you've done the hard bit, by taking the first step towards transformation. You've got this!

Coaching may be a game-changing - life changing - option for you!

Time to learn more about what coaching really is...

STEP # 2 - What is Coaching? Really?



- John Wooden

Coaching helps you gain

A - Awareness of why you think and feel the way you do 

B - Belief in yourself that you can do something about it

C - Clarity about what needs your attention and energy

D - Direction and purpose for making changes and impact

You will have the answers inside you (trust me!). Perhaps they cannot be revealed at the moment, blocked by self limiting beliefs, thoughts and a habit of running on autopilot. 

We use a coach approach to help you unravel the mystery of you, to help you discover your own unique-ness. We unpack and illuminate beliefs, patterns, thoughts and habitual behaviours not serving you. We'll help guide you to draw an extraordinary map of where you want to go, learn a new way to travel, bridge the gap between your real life and your ideal life and help you discover who your 'best possible self' really is. It's an inside out approach.

As a coach I'm also fiercely passionate about holding you accountable - coaching is a 'done with you' not 'done for you' approach!  And depending on your choice of package, between sessions you'll also have email support, weekly check-ins to keep you on track and, where necessary, you'll be provided with a handbook, workbook and a journal so you'll always have resources to refer back to.  

Plus, naturally, we make this transformational journey fun!  In a comfortable, safe and confidential environment.

Sessions can be face to face in Tamahere Hamilton or online (zoom). Sessions are normally 60mins each and to gain momentum and lasting change, preferably a fortnight apart.  Any shorter and you may lose the opportunity to 'practice and embed'; any longer and you may lose momentum, or life busy-ness may just get in the way!  

Eight sessions for example may just be four very quick months of your life to invest in YOU!   

Step #3 - How I've Helped Others

..an ability to bring insight to the conversation, highlighting connections and possibilities that had passed me by, really opened doors for me

...I'm more resilient and more adaptable to a changing work environment. I'm less stressed, more productive, and feel like I'm making a positive impact in the workplace

... Rhonda challenges me, and this encourages me to alter my mindset and to approach situations from a deeper place

... (I have) grown as an individual, can manage difficult situations and focus on the bigger picture.

... (I can) navigate complex and sometimes uncomfortable conversations

...acute listening skills to really hear what is going on for someone, and an intelligent yet down-to-earth summation

...professional and innate skills to help people correct the difficulties we all share in understanding ourselves, trusting others, communicating successfully, honouring our potential and feeling authentic and confident.

STEP #4 - Having a FREE Chat with Me

     

Regardless of the coaching package you choose, our first meet-up is no obligation and FREE. In this 30 minutes we discuss your needs, your intentions, your definition of success. You may be looking for a goal-mastering option. Or for some delicious, gentle pathways and strategies to enhance your perception and response to your life. Or wanting to crush the blockages, challenges and beliefs that have stood in your way in the past, transform and liberate yourself to be your best possible self, living the live you'd never want to trade!  So exciting! We can totally cater for this.  

In this first connection we work together to identify how far we're going to go with the 'unravelling' of layers and mystery of you to bridge the gap between your intentions and your reality.  AND it's important you feel comfortable with your coach and the investment you are making. Before you make it. That's why the first consultation is FREE.

If, after your first free meeting, you wish to continue with Our Minds Matter, you'll choose one of the coaching options, see below. What you choose will depend very much on what you are wanting to achieve, and that's what we can work out together in our freebie chat!

Step #5 - Choosing a Coaching Package or Programme

Mindful Mums - 10 session Programme

YOU'RE NOT SURE HOW TO BE THE calm, confident and connected MUM AND ROLE MODEL YOUR KIDS DESERVE

A programme of content and exercises to get lasting change to deal with the SPECIFIC challenges you face as a parent.

4 months & 8 Sessions

YOU KNOW HOW YOU FEEL & WHAT YOU WANT, & NEED HELP TO WORK OUT HOW TO SHIFT.

Designed for you if haven't worked with me before and need to get started 'somehow'. You're READY to deal with specific issues and build clarity and awareness about how you're relating to them.

Accountability & Maintenance - Monthly Sessions

YOU NEED TO HAVE A REGULAR CHECK IN, TO KEEP ON TRACK.

Suitable for after initial 8 sessions. Includes unlimited email access, and phone call check-ins as required.   Min of 6 monthly x 60 mins sessions.


Executive - Monthly Sessions + 24/7 Support

YOU WANT TO TRANSFORM HOW YOU SHOW UP AT HOME & WORK & NEED FIERCE SUPPORT to deal with things as and when they arise.

12 x fortnightly or 3 weekly sessions then 6 x monthly sessions. Unlimited email and phone access between sessions. 

 

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