You know what's amazing? You're not here by accident.
You're exactly where you need to be.
Because you’re so ready for change, right?
That you've come this far needs to be acknowledged. So whether you hang out in this site with me or connect somewhere else, I congratulate you for valuing yourself enough to start a journey of lasting change.... whatever 'upgrading your human experience' means to you.
Lasting change so you can upgrade your human experience and realise your goals is what transformational coaching is all about. It's what I'm all about!
I'm here for you when you want to make a big change or breakthrough in your life
I'm here for you when you're ready to get out of your own way, to go from good to great AF!
I'm here for you when you crave a sense of purpose, connection and direction...
I'm here for you if you're wanting to crush what's stood in your way so you can live to your potential!
I'm here for you when you're exhausted and you're wanting balance and new patterns of behaviour.
Or you need some delicious, gentle pathways and strategies to enhance your perception + response to life.
And I'm here when you 'just' want a fulfilling, peaceful more content and connected life.
And all that self-help has become 'shelf-help'! Now you need support and help to get there.
It can feel scary (especially if you haven't' experienced coaching before!). Because coaching is a personal, transformational and incredibly powerful journey. It's an investment in YOU.
It's important to note to - you don't have to be 'broken' to benefit from coaching. Everyone benefits from greater self awareness, clarity and taking aligned action towards their goals!
As the saying goes - pain is inevitable, suffering is a choice. And that's why I coach. To help you get out of your own way and become the awesome YOU that you can be, to have the human experience you deserve.!
Here's some common blocks you're likely hitting up against
Burnout + no boundaries - just can't say 'no'
People pleasing - becoming a human pretzel to keep others happy
Self limiting beliefs
Unconscious fears if WE DO get what we want
Isolation + disconnection
Lost your confidence, power & voice
Self doubt + comparison (the 'I'm not good enough' disease)
Procrastination, indecision + inaction - why can't I do this!!???
Lack focus, can't pay attention
And these blocks mean you get in your OWN way.
Does any of this sound familiar?
Are you Hitting Snooze, dragging yourself out of bed, dreading the day, lacking enthusiasm because you can't bear to hear all your staff's issues (you have enough of your own, right!)?
Are you spending time in The Depths of Despair – as you realised time is passing you by and you’re not living the life, or being the person, you wanted to be?
Have you become a Perfecting People Pleaser? Marching to the beat of others' expectations in your ear and becoming more and more resentful...?
Are you filling that Big Pot Hole In Your Life with unhealthy habits and behaviours. Retail therapy? A regular extra bottle of wine? Unhealthy eating habits?
Are you the Worst Version of You inside your most important relationships - snappy at your dog, yelling at the kids, snippy at work. Then beating yourself up for it?
Do you carry a Sense of Imposter Syndrome - "I've got this great job but I have no idea what I'm doing, they'll find me out soon enough"!?
Have you had that Regrettable Moment – you’ve overreacted, apologised profusely, hoping you’ll keep your job, your marriage, or a place at the Christmas table?
Are you convinced there's got to be Something Larger And More Lasting to be working on, but you just can’t pinpoint what that something is?
That's OK, these are the sorts of things my clients are working on. You're not alone, and I can help...
Any of these scenarios means you're being robbed of joy, connection, your dreams + the extraordinary life you deserve has become rather average + ho-hum. You're damaging your relationships, productivity, creativity, and health on a daily basis.
Wait! Yes, it can be tough out there and you don't need to be 'broken' to benefit from reaching out and getting support. You're not alone.
Nikki's story from burnout to reconnection with herself...
After years of giving her all to teaching and leadership, Nikki’s body began to shut down — racing heart, tears in the car, sleepless nights. She thought she just needed a break, but what she really needed was to stop pushing and start listening. Through coaching, Nikki learned to understand burnout as her body’s way of asking for care, not punishment — and to rebuild her life with gentleness, balance, and self-trust.
When you're my private coaching client, you get
ME IN YOUR CORNER
I'm on your team!
Here's what a client recently shared (expletive warning!)
Rhonda, you are a fucking super star and I really will be forever grateful for the way you allowed me to see my ‘belief system’ was built on a series of stories I’ve told myself and not based on reality.
You’ve taught me to forgive myself, shown me that there’s another way to think and allowed me to love myself - something I’ve wanted my entire life.
- AB, Hamilton
When ‘life happens’ we can resort to retail therapy, giving up, or a 10am martini. But shoving it down, sideways or to someone else doesn’t help!
Sometimes what you really, really, really need is a highly qualified and equally compassionate coach to help you review your life and goals, help you get under the hood to figure out what's working and what's not, and identify how & where to make change.
And what else? It's super common to want to have someone really see you, and celebrate with you. You need someone who consistently calls you forward into the work of healing AND growth. This is what I'm really good at!
So! If you're wanting to start a new chapter (volume?) of your life, and wanting to partner with someone as you navigate your work, relationships and curve balls ... I can support you.
So that you learn how to check yourself before you wreck yourself! Or your career. Kids. Marriage...
This is what 1:1 coaching with me in YOUR corner looks like:
I partner with you using an inside out approach (no lycra required!)
First we get crystal clear on your goals for coaching and together we create a unique map of where you want to go. We do this in a complimentary clarity session which includes finding out the best possible way for me to support you,
Then we uncover YOUR blindspots, beliefs, blocks, bruises and biases that sit lurking under the surface of your behaviours and choices. Because its those bloody B words that are the root causes of your stress, sabotage or suffering.
Now that we've pulled the B words out from under the bed, with this new-found awareness we can do the inner clarity + acceptance work which means you can get out of your own way, Its means doing the inner work where we unravel the mystery of yourself and help you discover who your 'best possible self' really is without all the B words. And we expand your mind and capacity to deal with stuff, like jobs, people, health, kids.... It's a bit like clearing the weeds so we can start from a clean + clear space.
This is WHY I am so passionate about what I do. It's the inner work that makes Transformational and Mastery Method Coaching such a powerful experience because we work on five different levels:
emotional
mindset (mental hygiene)
somatic (physical/embodiment)
behavourial
unconscious - which is where about 90% of our behaviours are directed from!
PS - Most coaching is behavourial only - the outer work. But I'm all about lasting change so we go deeper! This gives you the power, and I provide the support, so you take the aligned action, from a CLEAN space, to reach your goals.
PPS! - Its less about information, more about transformation. Great, right!?
This is how I approach my mahi
I build trust and partner with you.
I hear you, I see you and I care.
I don't hand you the answers. Despite what you may think right now, you already have the answers. My role is to partner with you to reveal these to yourself. Inside out remember?
THEN you'll know what you need to do
And if you want accountability, I'm there for that too!
I will give advice - only if you expressly ask for this!
I'm authentic, 'perfectly imperfect' and compassionate. There is no judgement.
I'm confidential and I respect your stories
All the while, I hold a loving, safe, space for you to be you.
"Rhonda has helped me gain clarity on my goals, values and break through some limiting beliefs. During this container I have experienced growth in my personal life by learning some great tips and tricks around letting go of “fear” and just doing “the thing”.
Rhonda has also helped me through some personal trauma which I was able to “let go” of and release through our sessions and also breath-work (which is amazing).
Working with Rhonda has been a life changing experience. She is so knowledgeable and very relatable. Rhonda provides such great support and encouragement throughout the process and I am very grateful for this journey. I highly recommend Rhonda to anyone looking to make positive changes in their life..
Hayley W, Hamilton
"My friends and family have commented on how I’m more confident, I’m taking chances and putting myself out of my comfort zone with pride. I have a whole new perspective on other people’s opinions and behaviours. The biggest change has been in my marriage; when we disagreed in the past or had an argument I would always get defensive and want nothing more than to get my point across, often taking the ‘victim’ role. Now I’m able to stop and think of things from my husband’s perspective, I can speak with clarity and sympathise with his perspective on the matter. This has stopped arguments in their tracks and allowed us to have constructive conversations where we each grow and rewrite the story we’ve told ourselves of arguments in the past."
AB, Hamilton
"Working with Rhonda has been life changing. On meeting her I felt at peace as she created a safe, non judgmental space where I felt fully accepted, allowing me to explore and share all aspects of myself. Her compassionate guidance has deepened my self awareness and empowered me to approach challenges with confidence.
Thanks to her support, time and talents, I feel more aligned, resilient, and confident to make empowered choices. I highly recommend Rhonda for anyone seeking a caring and intuitive coach to help guide them on their personal growth.
Truly grateful for the opportunity and experience
T Patu, Waikato
Ready to start your beautiful life changing journey?
Step #1 - Confirm You need a Coach
Step #2 - Decide If I'm the Coach for You
Step #3 - Book a FREE Clarity Session
Step#4 -Choose a Coaching Container
BURN OUT?
- accepting your state of chronic stress and overwhelm as normal?
- having no time or energy for what really matters?
- can't get out of bed in the morning?
- being taken advantage of at work or home?
- exhausting yourself giving the impression of being perfect?
- overwhelmed with dread about taking the next step?
- being unable to cope when the going gets tough?
SAD FOR 'NO REASON"?
- simply that: feeling sad and lost, and you can't put your finger on why?
- feeling lonely and no one understand you?
- everything should be 'fine' but it just isn't!
FEELING LIKE YOUR MIND IS GOING NUTS?
There are a bunch of 'cognitive distortions' that we all default to in varying degrees. Our brain is wired for survival not for happiness, and cognitive distortions are trying to protect us -
they’re fast tracked coping mechanisms which are really sensitive to threat.
Using cognitive based therapy (CBT) coaching can help you if you find yourself:- defaulting to 'all or nothing' thinking
- magnetising the negative, discounting the positive
- catastrophising the worst case scenario
- taking everything personally
- getting upset that others don't do what you think they should
- jumping to conclusions about the future - a but like fortune telling :)
- mind reading - making assumptions about what someone thinks about you
- constantly blaming others or 'needing' to be right all the time
- overgeneralising
By learning to correctly identify this kind of “stinkin’ thinkin’,” we can then answer the negative thinking back, and refute it. By refuting the negative thinking over and over again, it will slowly diminish overtime and be automatically replaced by more rational, balanced thinking. That's what coaching and CBT do.
RECENT LIFE CHANGING EVENT?
- kids recently left home?
- lost a job?
- been made redundant?
- closed a business?
- ended a relationship or recently divorced?
- moved towns?
- recently lost a loved one?
- recovering from a major health scare?
- returning to work after a long absence?
- been or being bullied at work?
- trying to deal with impact of COVID on your life?
- reaching a milestone birthday and you've discovered an appetite for something new?
PARENTING STRUGGLES?
- honestly where do you start?
- kids are angry and raging?
- kids are anxious and withdrawn, no self confidence?
- kids won't talk to you, spend their days locked up in their room?
- you worry constantly about their future?
- worrying about whether you've done enough to set them off in the world?
- worrying about whether they're able to make good decisions?
- scared about what they're really doing when not at home?
- not liking the version of you that your kids get to see?
- lost the plot with rules, boundaries and punishments?
SOMETHING HAS TO CHANGE!!???
- quite simply life was supposed to be better than this!
- something has to change and not sure where to start?
- feeling like you have no control over your life?
- at a crossroads in your career?
LANGUISHING?
- feeling comfortably or uncomfortably numb about life?
- in a treadmill - work home work, nothing to look forward to?
- feeling a sense of dread about the future - is this as good as it gets?
- knowing there was supposed to be more to life than this?
- feeling time is passing you by?
- scared to rock the boat and make a change, but knowing you have to?
- living the lives others expect you to have, rather than the one you want?
- feeling disheartened, downtrodden and disappointed at not having the life you thought you'd have?
LOST DIRECTION AND SENSE OF PURPOSE?
- don't even know WHAT you want to do?
- realising the self help books have become more 'shelf help' than 'self help'?
- living the lives others expect you to have, rather than the one you want?
- getting in your own way of progress - new year resolutions, yeah nah?
- unhappy in your job, but else can you do?
- feeling disheartened, downtrodden and disappointed for never getting 'it' started?
- maybe you're alone for first time and haven't had to come up with 'your own' direction before?
- at a crossroads in your career?
WANT TO AVOID MEDICATION?
- been advised that 'unless you do something' you'll end up on medication?
PANIC ATTACKS AND/OR ANXIETY?
- having panic attacks?
- feeling paralysed with fear about what future holds?
- losing sleep due to worrying?
- afraid to try anything new for fear of failure?
- accepting your state of anxiety as normal.
- being unable to cope when the going gets tough?
- unable to regulate your emotions, your emotional brain is on steriods?
CAN'T FOCUS OR PAY ATTENTION?
- unable to get things done, with monkey mind in full swing?
- can't turn your thoughts off?
- feeling disheartened, downtrodden and disappointed for never getting 'it' started?
- struggling to pay attention to people talking to you?
- can't decide what to be working on?
- constantly missing out on promotion?
DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO NEXT TO HELP YOURSELF?
- realising the self help books have become more 'shelf help' than 'self help'?
- feeling as if you're throwing down the drain with online training?
- getting in your own way of progress - new year resolutions, yeah nah?
- feeling disheartened, downtrodden and disappointed for never getting 'it' started.
- your mind full of thoughts and you can't unscramble them?
- unsure what even matters to you any more?
STRESSED AND OVERWHELMED?
- realising the self help books have become more 'shelf help' than 'self help'?
- getting too much advice from well meaning others and it's adding to the stress?
- accepting your state of chronic stress as normal?
- needing someone to listen and help without judgement?
- monkey mind in overdrive, can't see the wood for the trees!?
- exhausting yourself giving the impression of being perfect?
- treating yourself unkindly?
- being unable to cope when the going gets tough?
- worrying about your mental health (and its damaging your mental health!)?
- desperately trying to keep it all together, to be 'in control'?
PEOPLE PLEASING EXHAUSTION?
- living the lives others expect you to have, rather than the one you want.
- feeling resentment toward those you love and work for?
- exhausting yourself giving the impression of being perfect?
- trying to keep the peace?
- feeling responsible for the happiness of others?
- feeling disheartened and disappointed about who you are being?
- lost sight of who you really are - you've become a human pretzel trying to 'fit in' with everyone?
- yet, while you're frantically being everything to everyone, you're treating yourself unkindly?
WORK LIFE BALANCE TOTALLY OUT OF WHACK?
- giving 'your all' to work with little time left for other areas of life?
- relationships suffering as a result of time you spend at work?
- no time for exercise and self care?
- not getting enough sleep?
- someone's given you an ultimatum - "do something or else..."?
- never seeing your kids, missing out on them growing up?
- unable to get off the treadmill?
- fantasising about 'running away' (don't laugh, I've done it!!)
STEP #3 - Book a FREE Clarity Session
Regardless of the coaching package you choose, our first meet-up is no obligation and FREE - the Clarity Session. In 90 minutes we discuss your needs, your intentions, your definition of success.
This first connection is free because it's important you feel comfortable with your coach and the investment you're making. Before you make it.
STEP #4 - Choose a Coaching Container
If we think we're a good fit, we'll work out which Coaching Container is best suited for you. I'll make a recommendation to you based on what I've heard and observed in our Clarity Session, and what you're wanting to achieve - but the choice is always yours.
It could be 4 or 6 months of support, it could be FULL SUPPORT or it could be the Executive & Leadership container.
Your transformation may just be a very quick 4 month investment in YOU!
Just imagine what becomes possible for you with ME IN YOUR CORNER...
My mission is to help you lead yourself from the inside out so you can do, feel, think and connect better.
Using world class cutting edge coaching methodologies (I know, big call!), and the science backed principles of mindfulness, neuroscience and positive psychology.
I'm all about transformation - because unless you do something different with what you know, its all just more information.
And who needs more information!!??
