We're
all in this
together
We're navigating unchartered waters
LIFE IS BUMPY, messy and full of uncertainty. Plus we're navigating volatility, the effects of hyper connectivity... and more recently Mother Nature's wrath.
It may feel like 'everything' is changing at a rate faster than you can adapt. Which can make the responsibility to look after yourself, as well as others, overwhelming.
Add to this your own personal blocks, beliefs, biases and bruises - and you have a cocktail for stress, sabotage and suffering! Sigh.
It's Us
We,
You + Me
It's not just 'you'
We’re navigating uncharted waters with limited tools, often defaulting to survival modes that keep us from being and doing our best.
Often WE want things to be different, we want to be leaning into living, loving and leading more consciously, authentically and fully. But we don't know how or what to change, and we get stuck in cycles of reactivity, self doubt and 'wishing' for things to just magically change!
Which means when ‘life happens’ we might resort to retail therapy, giving up, or a 10am martini. But shoving it down, sideways or to someone else doesn’t help!
We can't change what's going on around us. But we CAN become more conscious of what is going on inside of us, between us and around us - and learn to lead from the inside out.
Becoming an island of sanity in a sea of chaos is THE SKILL of our times.
Transforming
the way we
lead +
learn +
love
Inside-out Conscious Leadership changes lives
"TRUE LEADERSHIP begins from within.
Leadership Isn’t About Having All The Answers —
It’s About Fostering An Inner And Outer Environment
Where Challenges Are Met With Equanimity And Creativity.
Sustained change begins within and extends to others through our presence and influence. That’s why it’s time to reframe our approach to life and leadership, to focus on the immense power of human consciousness, connection and collaboration.
Doing the inner work to BE a conscious leader is the only way to sustained change.
By first cultivating our own character, emotional operating system, values, and purpose we’re able to lead from the depths of our own authenticity, empathy, and self-awareness. This creates a ripple effect that transforms the way we learn, lead and love but also the world around us."
On paper, your life looks great - you have so much to be grateful for
But you can't seem to do or be All The Things, time is running out...
And you begin to wonder if you even CAN do or be what you want
You're filling a Big Pot Hole in your life with unhealthy habits + behaviours
Retail therapy? An extra bottle of wine? Unhealthy eating?
In the long term they're all as helpful as a cup of decaf, right!?
You've had that Rock Bottom Moment
"Something's got to change... or else..." Says your partner, child or boss – maybe even the doctor?
You're at your worst inside your most important relationships - snappy at your dog, yelling at the kids, reactive at work.
The Weight of Responsibility you feel for the mental health of your staff is making you feel like you're losing your own mind...
You see slowing productivity, slumping morale + increasing tension. Staff are suffering, breaking or broken, heading for burnout or the door!
Will the business even survive?" You start questioning your leadership + confidence. You just don't know what to do next.
You've tried everything, with no real change - IT IS TIME to live, lead and love consciously + show up for you and those you love + serve
What I do in less than 2 minutes... (and 3 slides)
I HELP PEOPLE upgrade their human experience by awakening to the leader and influence they already are. This is 'conscious leadership' in code! I help people become aware of how they're showing up to themselves, their relationships and the world in general - and shift from automatic cycles of reactivity to conscious cycles of calm, compassion and connection.
Whether you’re a leader of a family, 10 or 10,000 people, you’re human first & foremost.
So I help you understand your emotional operating system and your 'derailers', however elusive. You’ll become more aware, gain clarity and acceptance of what these derailers are, and get super clear on the aligned action you need to take to get out of your own way and reach your goals. This empowers you to be YOU in a world of adversity, uncertainty and complexity. And people!
HOW I DO IT ...
HOW I DO IT for TEAMS: Using my unique OMM framework and an authentic + informal approach (no PowerPoint in sight!) - I design and build transformational (exceptional even!) learning experiences for teams. My framework cuts through the conceptual jungle of neuroscience, psychology and theory to deliver a unique ‘lived learning’ experience, rich in stories, practices, conversations + opportunities to leverage the wisdom in the room. I am 'powered' by the 'Xchange approach' which means my framework is non clinical, backed by evidence, science, research and uses cutting edge best practice facilitation methods.
HOW I DO IT for INDIVIDUALS: I'm a professional accredited transformational Coach, with 1000s hours of 1:1 coaching experience. I partner with you to expand your mind, illuminating the blindspots, beliefs, blocks, biases and bruises that sit lurking under the surface of your behaviours and choices. So you can do something with all those bloody 'b' words! 😊 and stop patterns of behaviours which represent you when you're at your worst. I support you to unravel the mystery of yourself which gives you the power to step into your best self, and take aligned action.
And ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS. You can do/have/be what you want!
WHY I DO WHAT I DO: As the saying goes - pain is inevitable, suffering is a choice. And that's why I do what I do. To help you get out of your own way and become the awesome YOU that you can be, to have the human experience and connections you deserve to have!
WHAT OTHERS SAY: “Rhonda has both the professional and innate skills to help people correct the difficulties we all share in understanding ourselves, trusting others, communicating successfully, honouring our potential and feeling authentic and confident.”
THIS IS ME: For 25 years I was a leader too, I have the burnout bruises! I’ve recovered & transformed to become a lifelong learner. I'm a qualified professional transformational coach (not to be confused with a life coach), a conscious leadership facilitator AND a deep studier and practitioner of all things conscious leadership. I’m still a perfectly imperfect human being (and a human doing!) just like you. With 1 hubby, 4 acres + 5 kids!
What does
learning to lead
yourself from
the inside out
mean?
There's no separation between how we describe what's going on 'out there' and what's happening 'in here'
Our self awareness, our authentic leadership, our level of emotional intelligence + our capacity to cope (resilience) when life 'throws up on us' are absolutely positively crucial for personal effectiveness, leadership and team effectiveness.
Because if everything that's happening around us is also happening, between us and within us, and the ONLY thing we can control is what is going on INSIDE our head and hearts, then clearly this work of conscious leadership is the most important work we can be doing right now.
To be an ISLAND OF SANITY in a SEA OF CHAOS is the SKILL OR OUR TIMES
Whether you're a business leader or owner wanting to help your staff 'be and feel better''...
Or you're wanting to lead and role model more authentically...
Or if you're wanting to start a new chapter (volume?) of your life...
Or wanting to partner with someone as you navigate your work, relationships and curve balls
Or you quite simply want to get out of your own way and get some 'sh*t done...
I can support you.
And I'll LOVE doing it too!
No BS and no One Size Fits All.
You've tried everything, with no real change - IT IS TIME to live, lead and love consciously + show up for you and those you love + serve
Ready for some good news right about now?
You're not alone in your struggles
Things can be different
You and those you spend time with deserve things to be different...
This is why I do what I do!
What
becomes
possible
for you?
Commit to BEING Conscious + Change
What areas of your life would benefit from you leaning into learning, love + leadership more fully and authentically?
Perhaps the scariest question is
What's the cost of doing nothing on your performance, relationships and overall human experience?
When you make a commitment to change – rather than just keep wishing things would be different – anything is possible.
Better relationships (because you’re present in them!)
More open minded, creative and resourceful
A more positive outlook. Even happy.
Have a more balanced perspective of the world (and the people in it!)
The ability to solve problems, make decisions, give and receive feedback
Create fresh, resourceful habits of behaviour
Higher performance and productivity, more engagement at work
Reduced stress and anxiety levels and conflict
Values and strengths aligned behaviour
Healthy responses to challenging people and situations
Resilience and ease around the inevitable struggle, failure and confusion that a human experience guarantees.
I invite you to think about it - what would having less reactivity and more calm mean to you, those you love and those you serve...
You want to lead, love and live more consciously - do more good than harm to your own human experience, and your influence on those around you.
"I just wanted to make sure that I actually say it to you rather than just think it – but you have had such a positive impact on my life and I feel very fortunate to have met you. Not only in my life but on the people around me, which in turn has even more of a positive impact on my life, obviously!"
"Thank you so much for all your help lately - it has been super invaluable to me and I actually can't believe how I'm feeling and showing up considering all the things that are happening in my world. Bit proud of it, but also know I couldn't have done it without you and your mahi too."
"I just want to thank you.... from the deepest part of my heart. The gift you have given is priceless and touches the lives of everyone I love. There have been countless changes... it feels like shedding an old skin and it feels like freedom! I know that life could never revert back to what it was..... Sadness is no longer the enemy and when it does come up I am happier to sit with it and hold space for it.
Overall life feels secure, safe, free and I am open to opportunities and visibility. I know it won't be and hasn't been linear but WOW..... just wow......"
"A lot of what is inside us can seem bonkers to share aloud. Sometimes we need another to help us make sense of ourselves - at times of change, loss, fear and uncertainty for example.
Rhonda Parry is that person. She has both the professional and innate skills to help people correct the difficulties we all share in understanding ourselves, trusting others, communicating successfully, honouring our potential and feeling authentic and confident.
Rhonda is committed to helping people understand their "emotional operating system". Her warmth and energy, her thoughtful reflection, her generous listening with a gentle enquiry that helps us explore our 'de-railers' - however elusive.
Rhonda's skills help you to be alive to your present and re-energised for your future.""
What is
transformation?
Great Question.
THE OUR MINDS MATTER FRAMEWORK aims for transformation - healthy change for the long term. Transformation means shifting you from where you are to where you want to be, in a way in which you get to keep you hair, your job, your marriage and your sanity. With awareness, clarity and tools that will last much longer than the coaching or workshops!
That's because you'll learn how to lead yourself from the inside out, so when (not if) the rough stuff arrives, you can navigate that part of your human experience with ease and calm and even thrive because of it!
WHAT I DO IS TRANSFORMATIONAL because step by step, you:
Unlock your biases, blocks, beliefs and bruises
Gain clarity about how to better manage and accept these - and get out of your own way
Can cope magnificently when (not if) 'life' happens
Integrate what you know with what you do
Programme yourself more effectively for success and create new resourceful habits of thinking, feeling and doing, without me!
And achieve your goals!
Boom, a better human experience!
Conscious Leadership
Emotional Intelligence
Resilience
The OMM Framework
Conscious leadership because when you start with 'self' you take ownership of your own fallibility, reactivity, influence, growth + human experience. You'll become less stressed, less reactive and less judgemental. You be more aware, more accepting and more proactive. You'll develop the habit of self-reflection and track your influence as a conscious leader on yourself, others + the world - because there is no separation between what goes on inside us, between us and around us! . And from this place you become capable of inspiring and influencing others.
Emotional Intelligence, or EQ, equips you to understand and manage your own emotions effectively, and to hold space for others with empathy and compassion. The knock on effect is stronger relationships, better communication, and greater collaboration. Less angerm, reactivity and resentment all round! You can navigate conflicts, inspire teamwork, and make more informed decisions, which contributes to your, your family and the team's, success. It's not surprising this is the #1 skill being sought after in leaders now.
Resilience is our ability to bounce back to a better place after adversity or failure. It's about building an internal toolbox of practices to regulate your nervous system + alchemize stress. Because life without resilience make us prone to depression, anxiety, poor physical health, overwhelm, even burnout. Plus research shows that almost 50% of kiwis are stressed ‘nearly all the time’ and half of us are suffering with chronic stress in silence. Clearly building resilience muscles is going to make a difference in all areas of our life! Its a key skill we all need because none of us is immune to adversity. “Life happens". COVID 19 was proof of that.
You Need to Know
NO BS, NO ONE SIZE FITS ALL, NO APOLOGIES.
Yes it's going to get messy, takes commitment and it won't happen overnight. But it's worth it!
Yes there are many ways to do/feel/be different. But the best start is partnering with someone.
Yes there are 'quick fixes' out there. But the results are quick to disappear too. The most transformational change happens when you get real awareness of what's going on beneath the surface : how can you be/do/feel different if you're not aware?
My mission is to help you lead yourself from the inside out .
Using world class cutting edge coaching methodologies (I know, big call!), and the science backed principles of mindfulness, neuroscience and positive psychology.
So that you navigate a deliberate life with ease and confidence, upgrade your human experience and unlock your human potential!
