the effect of coaching

Transformational Coaching

We can help you transform from stressed, disconnected, even numb, to calm, deliberate and empowered through mindfully led and evocative coaching. We coach deliberate thinking.

What we do is evocative because it expands your mind to gain awareness on how you are perceiving and therefore experiencing your reality – that’s illuminating  the perceptions, feelings and values that sit lurking under the surface of your behaviours and choices. We assist you build clarity as you unravel the mystery of yourself.  That awareness gives you control and the ability to make change.

I'm just going to say it at the outset....

Coaching is a very personal, albeit incredibly powerful, journey.  It's an investment in YOU.  It takes time, money and effort.  That you've come this far needs to be acknowledged - whether you hang in this site or connect somewhere else - I congratulate you for valuing your life enough to make this investment, to make your life the one you never want to trade.  Hats off - and blessings - to you my friend!

When ‘life happens’ we can resort to retail therapy, giving up, or a 10am martini. But shoving it down, sideways or to someone else doesn’t help!

Setting Yourself Up for Coaching

Step #1 - Work Out If Coaching Can Help YOU

Step #2 - Learn What Coaching is Really

Step #3 - Decide If I'm the Right Coach for You

Step #4 - Pick up the Phone or Email

Step #5 - Decide on the Coaching Programme

Step #1 - When Is Coaching Going to Help You?

Here's a fun fact - nearly 50% of our day) we're operating in default autopilot mode.  Which is a great thing on one hand - because while we're busy sorting kids, logistics, report deadlines and a social life, we've also got 600 trillion cells doing exactly what they should be, when they should be.  We're incredible, all of us.

But then there's the unhelpful default mode - habits, patterns, beliefs and thoughts that fly under the radar, until, well, we wake up and just know it's time for some clarity and reorganising and unleashing.  Time for some deliberate thinking.  You know you have to make something shift because there's more to your life than 'this'. You deserve more than this. And you know that the cost to your happiness and health  of doing nothing will be catastrophic.

THAT is when coaching is going to help you!

Want to get more specific? If any of these feelings resonate for you, coaching can help!


  • accepting your state of chronic stress and overwhelm as normal?
  • having no time or energy for what really matters?
  • can't get out of bed in the morning?
  • being taken advantage of at work or home?
  • exhausting yourself giving the impression of being perfect?
  • overwhelmed with dread about taking the next step?
  • being unable to cope when the going gets tough?


  • simply that: feeling sad and lost, and you can't put your finger on why?
  • feeling lonely and no one understand you?
  • everything should be 'fine' but it just isn't!


There are a bunch of 'cognitive distortions' that we all default to in varying degrees.  Our brain is wired for survival not for happiness, and cognitive distortions are trying to protect us -

they’re fast tracked coping mechanisms which are really sensitive to threat.

Using cognitive based therapy (CBT) coaching can help you if you find yourself:
  • defaulting to 'all or nothing' thinking
  • magnetising the negative, discounting the positive
  • catastrophising the worst case scenario
  • taking everything personally
  • getting upset that others don't do what you think they should
  • jumping to conclusions about the future - a but like fortune telling :)
  • mind reading - making assumptions about what someone thinks about you
  • constantly blaming others or 'needing' to be right all the time
  • overgeneralising

By learning to correctly identify this kind of “stinkin’ thinkin’,” we can then answer the negative thinking back, and refute it. By refuting the negative thinking over and over again, it will slowly diminish overtime and be automatically replaced by more rational, balanced thinking. That's what coaching and CBT do.


  • kids recently left home?
  • lost a job?
  • been made redundant?
  • closed a business?
  • ended a relationship or recently divorced?
  • moved towns?
  • recently lost a loved one?
  • recovering from a major health scare?
  • returning to work after a long absence?
  • been or being bullied at work?
  • trying to deal with impact of COVID on your life?
  • reaching a milestone birthday and you've discovered an appetite for something new?


  • honestly where do you start?
  • kids are angry and raging?
  • kids are anxious and withdrawn, no self confidence?
  • kids won't talk to you, spend their days locked up in their room?
  • you worry constantly about their future?
  • worrying about whether you've done enough to set them off in the world?
  • worrying about whether they're able to make good decisions?
  • scared about what they're really doing when not at home?
  • not liking the version of you that your kids get to see?
  • lost the plot with rules, boundaries and punishments?


  • quite simply life was supposed to be better than this!
  • something has to change and not sure where to start?
  • feeling like you have no control over your life?
  • at a crossroads in your career?


  • feeling comfortably or uncomfortably numb about life?
  • in a treadmill - work home work, nothing to look forward to?
  • feeling a sense of dread about the future - is this as good as it gets?
  • knowing there was supposed to be more to life than this?
  • feeling time is passing you by?
  • scared to rock the boat and make a change, but knowing you have to?
  • living the lives others expect you to have, rather than the one you want?
  • feeling disheartened, downtrodden and disappointed at not having the life you thought you'd have?


  • don't even know WHAT you want to do?
  • realising the self help books have become more 'shelf help' than 'self help'?
  • living the lives others expect you to have, rather than the one you want?
  • getting in your own way of progress - new year resolutions, yeah nah?
  • unhappy in your job, but else can you do?
  • feeling disheartened, downtrodden and disappointed for never getting 'it' started?
  • maybe you're alone for first time and haven't had to come up with 'your own' direction before?
  • at a crossroads in your career?


  • been advised that 'unless you do something' you'll end up on medication?


  • having panic attacks?
  • feeling paralysed with fear about what future holds?
  • losing sleep due to worrying?
  • afraid to try anything new for fear of failure?
  • accepting your state of anxiety as normal. 
  • being unable to cope when the going gets tough?
  • unable to regulate your emotions, your emotional brain is on steriods?


  • unable to get things done, with monkey mind in full swing?
  • can't turn your thoughts off?
  • feeling disheartened, downtrodden and disappointed for never getting 'it' started?
  • struggling to pay attention to people talking to you?
  • can't decide what to be working on?
  • constantly missing out on promotion?


  • realising the self help books have become more 'shelf help' than 'self help'?
  • feeling as if you're throwing down the drain with online training?
  • getting in your own way of progress - new year resolutions, yeah nah?
  • feeling disheartened, downtrodden and disappointed for never getting 'it' started.
  • your mind full of thoughts and you can't unscramble them?
  • unsure what even matters to you any more?


  • realising the self help books have become more 'shelf help' than 'self help'?
  • getting too much advice from well meaning others and it's adding to the stress?
  • accepting your state of chronic stress as normal?
  • needing someone to listen and help without judgement?
  • monkey mind in overdrive, can't see the wood for the trees!?
  • exhausting yourself giving the impression of being perfect?
  • treating yourself unkindly?
  • being unable to cope when the going gets tough?
  • worrying about your mental health (and its damaging your mental health!)?
  • desperately trying to keep it all together, to be 'in control'?


  • living the lives others expect you to have, rather than the one you want. 
  • feeling resentment toward those you love and work for?
  • exhausting yourself giving the impression of being perfect?
  • trying to keep the peace?
  • feeling responsible for the happiness of others?
  • feeling disheartened and disappointed about who you are being?
  • lost sight of who you really are - you've become a human pretzel trying to 'fit in' with everyone?
  • yet, while you're frantically being everything to everyone, you're treating yourself unkindly?


  • giving 'your all' to work with little time left for other areas of life?
  • relationships suffering as a result of time you spend at work?
  • no time for exercise and self care?
  • not getting enough sleep?
  • someone's given you an ultimatum - "do something or else..."?
  • never seeing your kids, missing out on them growing up?
  • unable to get off the treadmill?
  • fantasising about 'running away' (don't laugh, I've done it!!)


If any of the above is familiar...

...breathe, and be kind to yourself.  You're not alone.  

Plus, you've done the hard bit, by taking the first step towards transformation. You've got this!

Coaching may be a game-changing - life changing - option for you!

Time to learn more about what coaching really is...

STEP # 2 - What is Coaching? Really?

Coaching helps you gain

A - Awareness of why you think and feel the way you do 

B - Belief in yourself that you can do something about it

C - Clarity about what needs your attention and energy

D - Direction and purpose for making changes and impact

You will have the answers inside you (trust me!). Perhaps they cannot be revealed at the moment, blocked by self limiting beliefs, thoughts and a habit of running on autopilot. 

We use a coach approach to help you unravel the mystery of you, to help you discover your own unique-ness. We unpack, reveal and illuminate beliefs, patterns, thoughts and habitual behaviours not serving you. We'll help guide you to draw an extraordinary map of where you want to go, learn a new way to travel, bridge the gap between your real life and your ideal life and help you discover who your 'best possible self' really is.

You'll gain awareness of what a 'mindfully extraordinary life' looks and feels like for you. It starts with an inside out approach: a new appreciation of how much choice you really do have about your experiences in the world PLUS a vision of what life would look and feel like if you were deliberate about living it.  We'll guide you as you create a toolbox of strategies, and practice using those strategies so you start living life on purpose!  

As a coach I'm also fiercely passionate about holding you accountable - coaching is a 'done with you' not 'done for you' approach!  Between sessions you'll have full email support, weekly check-ins to keep you on track and, where necessary, you'll be provided with a handbook, workbook and a journal so you'll always have resources to refer back to.  

Plus, naturally, we make this transformational journey fun!  In a comfortable, safe and confidential environment.

Sessions can be face to face in Tamahere Hamilton or online (zoom). Sessions are normally 60mins each and to gain momentum and lasting change, preferably a fortnight apart.  Any shorter and you may lose the opportunity to 'practice and embed'; any longer and you may lose momentum, or life busy-ness may just get in the way!  

Eight sessions for example may just be four very quick months of your life to invest in YOU!   

Step #3 - What Others Say About Me

"For the past 6 months I have had the privilege of being coached by Rhonda. As a transformational coach Rhonda does not make decisions for me but instead she enables me to look at my life through a different lens. 

Rhonda allows me to tell my story and then by weaving in curious and challenging questions we get to the real issue. What I really like is that at times she challenges me, and this encourages me to alter my mindset and to approach situations from a deeper place. Sometimes the shift in my mindset is subtle and others it is quite monumental.

Rhonda's coaching has enabled me to change my attitude about myself and my business. I now have the courage to make and even embrace change and to move forward by making choices that serve me well.
I truly look forward to our sessions, her natural humour, authenticity and real connection allows me to be vulnerable.    Thank you Rhonda" - Hazel, coach and business owner, Wellington

"I completed eight mindfulness / communication coaching and mentoring sessions with Rhonda. I found it incredibly beneficial from a personal and professional perspective. It helped me understand my own and other’s feelings / emotions, while developing a toolbox to manage the same. Rhonda was very personable and flexible to adjust the content to meet my needs. I highly recommend" - Mark, banker, Waikato

STEP #4 - Having a FREE Chat with Me

Regardless of the coaching package you choose, our first meet-up is no obligation and FREE. In this 30 minutes we discuss your needs, your intentions, your definition of success. You may be looking for a goal-mastering option. Or for some delicious, gentle pathways and strategies to enhance your perception and response to your life. Or wanting to crush the blockages, challenges and beliefs that have stood in your way in the past, transform and liberate yourself to be your best possible self, living the live you'd never want to trade!  So exciting! We can totally cater for this.  

In this first connection we work together to identify how far we're going to go with the 'unravelling' of layers and mystery of you to bridge the gap between your intentions and your reality.  AND it's important you feel comfortable with your coach and the investment you are making. Before you make it. That's why the first consultation is FREE.

If, after your first free meeting, you wish to continue with Our Minds Matter, you'll choose one of the coaching options, see below. What you choose will depend very much on what you are wanting to achieve, and that's what we can work out together in our freebie chat!

Step #5 - Choosing a Coaching Package or Programme

Just One Session Please

You've READY to deal with just one specific issue, so you can 'be' even more than you anticipate right at this moment.

Or maybe... you've never had a coaching session before, this is for you if you'd like to 'try before you jump' in completely!

Mindful Mums - 10 session Programme


A programme of content and exercises to get lasting change to deal with the SPECIFIC challenges you face as a parent.

4 months & 8 Sessions


Designed for you if haven't worked with me before and need to get started 'somehow'. You're READY to deal with specific issues and build clarity and awareness about how you're relating to them.

Accountability & Maintenance - Monthly Sessions


Suitable for after initial 8 sessions. Includes unlimited email access, and phone call check-ins as required.   Min of 6 monthly x 60 mins sessions.

Executive - Monthly Sessions + 24/7 Support

YOU WANT TO TRANSFORM HOW YOU SHOW UP AT HOME & WORK & NEED FIERCE SUPPORT to deal with things as and when they arise.

12 x fortnightly sessions then 6 x monthly sessions. Unlimited email and phone access between sessions. 

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We also run Living Life On Purpose With Purpose weekend workshops

Please contact us for upcoming dates.  Due to the uncertainty of dipping in and out of COVID 19 Alert Levels we postponed upcoming 2022 workshops.  But we promise to get them started again soon... 


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