http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/ The latest Blog feeds from www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz en-us Sat, 04 Apr 2026 14:44:59 +1300 Rocketspark http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/post/87285/leaning-into-joy-and-being-intentionally-purposeless/ Why we need to lean into playing, having fun and doing things that are inherently purposeless!  JOY is on my mind this month  Last weekend I had the entire weekend by myself, to do as I pleased.  I'm not proud to say I spent most of the weekend working, cleaning the laundry after the departure of two cats and redistributing stuff from one end of the house to the other.  I even laminated until 10pm Saturday. At 4pm Sunday I forced myself to watch a movie an... Mon, 22 Aug 2022 13:59:17 +1200 http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/#post87285 http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/post/87283/youre-afraid-yeah-me-too-said-every-leader-ever/ I'm falling more and more in love with my mahi every day.  Recently I've been working with an organisation with some of the most 'professionally' successful people I know.  And we've been unpacking what is beneath the 'iceberg' for each of us.  It's both inspiring, and sadly thought provoking. Inspiring because it reminds us, how we are all, every single one of us, so similar and connected. We all want the same things in life really.  Connection, belonging, purpose, resp... Mon, 22 Aug 2022 13:55:22 +1200 http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/#post87283 http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/post/87282/check-yourself-before-you-wreck-yourself/ ... Mon, 22 Aug 2022 13:50:37 +1200 http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/#post87282 http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/post/83891/running-out-of-time-what-about-attention/ Only when we harness our attention can we truly get the quality and quantity of our life's work done! Never enough time 'at the end of the day'? Always too much on your TO DO list?Can’t keep up with what’s being asked of you?Perhaps you have more dirty clothes than clean clothes, you’re earning frequent flyer points at the local takeaways… and if you could only remember where you left those tickets you printed….Hang on, why did I even come t... Mon, 13 Jun 2022 09:08:21 +1200 http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/#post83891 http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/post/83890/no-one-even-minds--honestly/ This is a story.The beginning - the habit of 'striving to be perfect', constantly comparing and thrashing myself to the point of exhaustion (burnout).The middle - having an epiphany on the yoga mat about where my fear of being judged and compared really stems from. The end - realising that anyone who truly matters to you, doesn’t care HOW imperfect or messy you are. My Personality. Rewind 15 Years. I was once told I was the personality type least likely to do yoga. And the perso... Mon, 13 Jun 2022 09:05:29 +1200 http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/#post83890 http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/post/80807/when-the-heat-is-rising-and-youre-tempted-to-react-just-breathe/ Turning a reaction into a response using your breath can be game changer!  My kids returned to university and school this week.  And it started to rain. If it wasn’t for the fact I heard a forecast overnight low of 22 degrees tonight I could be excused for thinking summer had ended!  The first week of February often reminds me of the year I had 5 kids at 5 different schools. Almost the definition of insanity. Well the school notices were piling high. Donations, station... Thu, 03 Feb 2022 00:00:00 +1300 http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/#post80807 http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/post/80808/leading-from-the-inside-out/ Leading from the inside out means letting people see your humanness, your bad days and your imperfections.  You may or may not remember, last month I promised to share some tips on how to ditch perfectionism and become a ‘perfect stuffer-upperer’ 😊 Here we go... I was recently talking with a woman who was struggling with an anxious teenager.  Mrs P was immaculately dressed and groomed, her house looked like a show room and her Christmas tree was, well, ‘picture ... Tue, 18 Jan 2022 00:00:00 +1300 http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/#post80808 http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/post/80813/building-resilience--mining-pearls-of-wisdom--reflecting-on-2021-because-it-was-tough/ It’s so tempting at this time of the year – and after the year we’ve had DTC* - to wish our lives away in the hope that on 1 January 2022 our lives will be different! Yet on 1 January we’re highly likely to wake up in the same environments, same thinking patterns, same jobs, same habits, same relationships… as we did on 31 December.  Maybe with a hangover thrown in for good measure and a list of resolutions our ‘last-year-self’ thought would be fabulous for our future-sel... Sun, 05 Dec 2021 00:00:00 +1300 http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/#post80813 http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/post/80809/how-to-get-people-to-open-up-to-you/ How to Get People to Open Up to You including how to get teenagers out of their rooms and talking (nicely, calmly.....) Stick with me – even if you don’t have kids, the three tools I’m going to share today, when practiced (!!), will change every relationship you have, and every one you will have! I'd always had ridiculously ‘perfect’ ideals about who I would be as a mum, and who my kids should be....the amazing holidays, meals and memories we’d make together. A bit like the... Mon, 08 Nov 2021 00:00:00 +1300 http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/#post80809 http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/post/73095/how-to-cope--are-you-a-headless-chook-or-have-your-head-in-the-sand/ The way in which we cope with lockdown uncertainty, adversity, or just the queue at the supermarket, comes down to our assessment of what’s in our control. Often at the start of a coaching session, a client is, not surprisingly, feeling stressed.  However, when my client builds awareness that they’re stressing about something which is out of their control, there is an enormous sense of relief.  A lightness.  And a sense of possibility, power and purpose – to then set ab... Fri, 08 Oct 2021 15:54:38 +1300 http://www.ourmindsmatter.co.nz/blog/#post73095